A couple weeks ago, my friend Cindy and I had some free time before our next call, and we decided to do a Facebook live event to answer some of your questions!

The first question we got was – “What if your upline or leader drops the ball?”

This is such a great question, because you find yourself being let down by those who are supposed to lift you up. When we are following someone else’s path and listening to their advice, it can be hard to know how to continue without them.

I hear this often. People emailing me, saying, “Can you help me out? I don’t know what to do.”

I’ve definitely been in that situation before.

Don’t get me wrong – I have built an amazing team of people around me. My family, friends and work team are a great support network. We are always there for each other and we build each other up with encouragement.

But sometimes… life isn’t perfect. Somebody’s going to let you down. Somebody is going to drop the ball. And sometimes – that somebody was supposed to be your leader!

I say, “Be your own leader.”

You got to step up and do what’s right for you. Build your team and be the leader that you need and they need.

So here are a few ways you can be your own leader in life:

Be fearless.

Part of what makes you able to lead others is the ability to lead yourself. It takes courage and passion to go for what you want – even if it’s difficult. You have to do things that make you afraid. You have to keep pushing to find the greatness within yourself. Only after you go for it will you be able to get it!

Set Goals.

Really reach high on this one. If you set your sights too low, you won’t grow as a person. Really think about how you want to lead your life. Try setting daily, monthly and long-term goals to achieve your dreams. Then make a plan on how you will take action!

Try new things.

Say yes as often as possible – to new ideas, new opportunities and new experiences. Think of each day as a new adventure, full of possibility. When we try something new, we have the potential to learn, thrive, love and discover things that we never even knew about.

Be actively positive!

Sure, we all have our bad days, and there will always be something to be negative about. But when we focus our minds on the good in the world, we are actively training ourselves to be positive. We have the power to make our own choices about how we feel and how we see things. As leader of your own life, push out the negative and enjoy the happiness.

Do what’s right, not what’s easy.

Sometimes, there’s no gray area in the decisions we make. There’s wrong, and there’s right. Make sure that you stay true to yourself and honor your commitments and relationships with integrity, compassion, honesty and a good code of ethics. Trust in your values instead of taking the easy way out (because it’s convenient or personally beneficial).

Be curious. Find a mentor.

Even if we have a mentor or a leader who teaches us, it’s up to us to learn. The more you question, the more you learn, the more you know. Seek out the knowledge you need to become your best self – personally and professionally. Ask yourself questions to stay focused – simple questions to clarify issues and facts, and complex questions for deeper insights into concepts and beliefs.

Seek guidance from others who have embarked on similar journeys, who’ve had success in their careers, and be sure they are people who you believe in. Let these people teach and coach you, and look for opportunities for them to share constructive criticism.  Be open and aware and willing to listen to others.

Be the change you want to see in the world.

Gandhi said it first! This says it all.

If you want results, you make it happen. If you need a leader, you be your own leader. If you need answers, seek em out! If your life is filled with negativity, you be the brightest, most positive person in the room!  Dream big and take risks.

You’ll never achieve anything if you don’t go for it!

Lead the way 😉