Hey, I want to let you in on a little secret.

You ready?

It’s okay to mess up.

No really, it is. Believe me.

I know it doesn’t feel like it. When we mess up, when our life is less than perfect, it can feel like the world is crumbling around us. Pushing through feels barely possible, much less being positive about it. It can feel like no matter how hard you try, there’s no way to be successful.

But that’s a lie. Everyone is capable of success. But you need two things —  you need to be willing to put in the work and you need to be confident in yourself.

But how do you do that when it feels like everything is falling apart?

By being consistent. You don’t need to take huge, overwhelming steps, but you do need to be absolutely, one hundred percent committed to what it is that you can do.

I am a huge believer in setting tangible goals for yourself. You have big dreams, and that is amazing, but how are you going to actually get it done? What are the actual steps you can take to make your dreams a reality?

Setting little goals to reach your huge, amazing dreams is so important. If the goal you set for yourself is “get in shape,” do you think you will ever follow through? No. But if your dream is to get in shape, and your goal is to run for 30 minutes three times a week, how much more likely do you think are to follow through?

It takes more than just commitment to your dreams and your goals. It takes the belief that you are going to succeed.

I know that can be hard to believe, but you have to do it. You are more than capable. You have to believe that you have the capacity to get those things done that you need to get done.

In your life, you are going to hear a lot of “no”. I know for a fact I hear it all the time. And it can get exhausting. It can get really, really discouraging.

So I want you to ask yourself, how are you going to deal with the “no’s” in your life?

You can’t let the “no’s” get you down. You have to use them as an opportunity to step into your goals. Use the “no’s” as an opportunity to learn about yourself and your dreams.

Just think about it — if a “no” created such a huge reaction in you, it must mean something. It must mean that you really care about what someone said no to you about.

So take that anger and frustration you felt from hearing no, and turn it into drive and action. Turn it into the energy you need to get out there and kick some butt! I know you have it in you. (Click here to learn how you can turn those passions into a career plan.)

So when you feel discouraged, take some time to think about your dreams, and write out some goals. And when you hear no, use it as an opportunity to dig deeper into what it is you want.

Because you deserve an amazing, beautiful life.

You just have to believe in yourself.

(And work your butt off, too).